Why women date other marrieds?
Speak about a loaded subject that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on since old ages. Extramarital affairs can be filled with troubles, cause misery, and other troubles. In addition you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness thing, funds, age difference, spiritual education, shame, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I should define an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married woman looking for dating married men.
Why do women have affairs? There are as many answers as there are women seeking an affair. I am conserned generally though it is just the human nature, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and fun, and sex makes us flee the real world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people are able to turn the desire on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another individual, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos humanity has erected against affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the wrath of not only their family, but the public also. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is terribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your spouse or anybody else? You will need to lessen the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major cluster, enormous in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they are happy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to consider. Your finances are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An marital affair sometimes solves the trouble while keeping the marriage whole.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a ordinary cause I fear. One or the other, usually the gentleman is sexually neglecting his lady for a multitude of reasons. As a man I really appreciate you guys neglecting your ladies and making them obtainable to us men of romance, making them “lonely wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, maybe caring is gone, could be it is the closeness, could be neglect. Maybe we have simply developed apart, our common interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is contradictory of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.